Happy Memorial Day

Where Memorial Day comes from. It is not about a day off or barbeque. Thank you for your sacrifices for our freedom, as Memorial Day honors the dead while Veteran’s Day honors the living. Find a Memorial Day event in your area to honor those who fell for your freedom.


A little polishing…for us.

I did not grow up in a YouTube world. Nowadays, if you wish to learn something, you can watch thousands of videos (good and bad) to learn anything you want.

When I became 15 my mother took me to Merle Norman to get my first makeup “professionally” done. I walked out of there with a couple of pounds of makeup. My face was completely pancaked and I had makeup of every pore of my face. Even my thick eyebrows had makeup in them!

I never really learned how to properly apply makeup. I started in earnest to learn a couple of years ago in my early 30s. It seemed going to get your makeup done at Merle Norman or a makeup counter was the thing to do and you’re at the mercy of that person’s interpretation of what looks good and their knowledge. I swear, I looked like an overdone performer one time when the ‘makeup artist’ put a dark shade from my lash line all the way to my eyebrows. Geesh, I couldn’t wipe that off fast enough.eyemakeup

I walked into Ulta recently and asked for help. My first question was, ‘are you knowledgeable?’ Which is ridiculous now that I think about it afterwards, of course people are not going to ‘tell’ on themselves for being less than an expert. Anyways,  I needed help determining if my skin tone is cool, warm, or neutral. I don’t know what to call a male made up like a female but not wearing female clothes other than Boy-George.

So Boy-George took a look at my wrist to see what color my veins looked. If they are blue I am cool, if they are green, I’m more neutral. Guess what, based on that I am neutral. BUT I am more of a cool neutral than anything because I have pink undertones to my skin. Boy-George said I was a Neutral Warm. Um, no. You just lost all credibility. Yes, my hair has red tones in it (I paid to put it there) but I am not a Warm in any capacity.


My lesson in all of this is not to trust the paid retail help. You may get lucky and actually find someone who knows what they are talking about because they live and breathe makeup but that hasn’t been my experience. Oh and stay away from the mannequins, if you want a more natural look, the real life mannequin dolls at the makeup counter cannot help you, they cannot even help themselves. If their face seems like a mask they are wearing, walk away. I have a hard time not staring sometimes.

Recently I have learned about-face shapes, eyebrow shapes, eye shapes, skin tones, what colors to wear, and eyeshadow application. You cannot look your best if you don’t know how to accentuate your natural beauty. Makeup is a tool to learn to use. I found this website that has great helps to start your path.


Best part is no one is trying to sell you anything. For years I thought I had a round or oval face. I am actually heart-shaped. Which is why I have had a hard time finding sunglasses that compliment my face. Now I know what to look for. No matter what age, we all want to look and feel our best. I consider this a part of Ladies Roar, anything that promotes self-awareness and self-improvement. #LadiesRoar



Building Your Own Target Stands

I love this design because the wood can be replaced.



Where did the integrity in journalism go?

I wanted to be a journalist, I wanted to get out into the world and write stories that would inform, enlighten, and entertain the general public. I saw journalism as a way to uncover the truth, to go beyond the feel-good propaganda and get to the meat of information, the information the general public isn’t privy to.

I was inspired by Benjamin Franklin, Paul Revere, and all of the people in history that made sure the hidden truth of matters was broadcast to the everyday people and information didn’t stay behind closed doors.

Now, journalism is no longer about the TRUTH. It is about MONEY. It is about getting ratings, promoting the message of our sponsors, the politics of our owners & sponsors. Truth has no place in journalism anymore, it’s all about hooks and propaganda to sway public opinion to the mercy of the author.



Is this true for all journalists? I’m sure it’s not but the figureheads you see on television, what you are seeing are puppets. Puppets told what to say and how to say it- the good ones have learned the ropes and spout out propaganda quickly and effortlessly with no regard to the truth.

I’m glad I didn’t become a puppet.

It’s disgusting and it happens all the time. That is why there is advertising about the FAIR and BALANCED. The TRUTH, all these buzz words in advertising to get the general public to TRUST their news cast. Watch us because we are better than the liars over there. Guess what, I have little faith in ALL of you.

We can hold them responsible..report them at the Center for Journalism Ethics http://ethics.journalism.wisc.edu/resources/holding-media-accountable/

In order to truly stop them we have to become journalists ourselves, share the truth. That is the heart of journalism, not ratings and money. TRUTH.



Guns Don’t Cause Crime.. at 2016 NRA Annual Meeting — SlowFacts

Do guns cause crime? I was at this years NRA annual convention. This was the place to find out if guns cause crime. I joined 80 thousand NRA members in one building for three days. The answer is in and guns do not cause crime! Here is what I saw.. and what I did NOT […]

via Guns Don’t Cause Crime.. at 2016 NRA Annual Meeting — SlowFacts

Give up? Pa-cha!

The official pout.

My parents would say I am beyond stubborn. I just go after what I want to do, if I am impassioned about it, good luck stopping me. However, I am not perfect and I don’t have all the answers. Obstacles?

Sure, I trip over them trying to find a way around them. I may get bruised but I keep going. I don’t know what to say to excusers. I don’t know what to do when my own children come to me with endless excuses.

I have NO IDEA what I am doing with this website. NOT a clue. I used to blog over at Blogger and did a little CSS but today’s acronyms are mind-boggling! I know I want to move my website from wordpress to another host to be able to do more things (as cost-effectively as possible). I am struggling through because I am not independently wealthy, I would rather learn how to do something and be self-reliant than pay someone else to do something I could do.

Is that stubborn? Okay, well maybe a little.

stub·born adjective

 having or showing dogged determination not to change one’s attitude or position on something, especially in spite of good arguments or reasons to do so.

I don’t think that is a bad thing unless you are being stubborn for bad reasons. In spite of good arguments?? That I would save time if I hired someone else? Maybe but I would spend a WHOLE lot more by not learning it myself and being willing to struggle through the concepts that sounds like alien language.

You don’t have to know everything to start learning. All you need to learn is to have a determination to learn and be willing to do what it takes to become better. So what if I completely screw up my website, I can build another one. So what if I don’t shoot well ONE time at the range, did I pay attention to why I didn’t shoot well? So what if I embarrass myself in public? Who really cares?SettingGoals

I want things to be easy just like everyone else. I prefer not to be so persistent all the time. I am not perfect, I will make mistakes. I will pout, scream, shout, be upset and then get over it and keep at it. I embrace my difficult side, always secretly have. GRIN

I know teenagers that really struggle with overcoming self-induced obstacles. My husband calls it Eeyore syndrome, woe-is-me nothing ever goes right for me. It’s not just teenagers with that outlook, I know plenty of adults with Eeyore syndrome too. The focus is more on the problems than the solutions, the prize goes out of focus. Of course, by the prize, I mean accomplishing the goal.

What I have found time and time again is that the missing piece that keeps me from my goal is usually me. Do you find that too?

I will stop allowing new information and terms to overwhelm me, I will learn what they mean and how it applies. I will take my time and learn how to do this website stuff, my website may disappear for a little while but it will be back once I figure out what I did wrong. Hopefully.





Fast and Furious is Back- Holder lied and people died — SlowFacts

The Obama Administration’s gun-running operation called “Fast and Furious” is back in the news. The Obama administration handed thousands of guns to Mexican drug gangs starting back in 2009. Now, after years of delay, District Court Judge Amy Berman ordered the Department of Justice to produce the documents Congress requested. The DOJ finally produced them, some […]

via Fast and Furious is Back- Holder lied and people died — SlowFacts

10 Politically Incorrect Gun Rules- by Regis Giles — SlowFacts

Regis Giles reposts some of my articles over on her site Girls Just Wanna Have Guns. (Warning, pop up advertisements) Here is Regis making fun of the people who fear guns with her video 10 Politically Incorrect Gun Rules. Give her a view. (Warning, pop up advertisements) She is also poking fun at the red neck […]

via 10 Politically Incorrect Gun Rules- by Regis Giles — SlowFacts

Trump, NRA and 30,000 Deaths a Year

Watch out! The NY Times is all over Trump and his promises to the NRA to end the gun-free zones in schools and colleges on his first day in office.

Although he once supported a ban on assault weapons on the home front, Donald Trump has shown no hesitation in readjusting as a presidential candidate to pander to the gun industry, fervidly vowing in January to end gun-free zones in schools and on military bases on his first day in the White House. “My first day, it gets signed, okay?” he told a rally in gun-friendly Vermont. “My first day. There’s no more gun-free zones.” NY Times Article

The article goes on to say that Trump will appear at the NRA’s Annual Meeting this year. The issue I take with these news articles is the reporting of

It would be better for voters and their safety if his speech were connected to a full campaign debate over guns as a public health issue costing more than 30,000 lives a year. NY Times Article

Do you really think 30,000 deaths a year is a large number? There is the same amount of automobile deaths in a year. Let’s go to the CDC website and look at the top causes of death, shall we?


Okay let’s look at this. In 1980 all of the deaths, #10 cause was suicide (through all methods, not just gun related) and in 2014 not only were there more deaths but the suicide instances rose. There were 636,577 more deaths in 2014 than 1980 and an increase of 15,904 more suicides.


Now it’s broken down between male & females. The males are more suicide prone apparently. 20,505 Suicide deaths in 1980 and 33,113 in 2014 and increase of 12,608. Look though, homicide is on the male side during 1980 but didn’t make the list in 2014.


Then the CDC broke it down to race. Homicide is within the black statistics only but with a decrease from 1980 to 2014. Suicides are higher within the white statistics from 1980 to 2014.

I can make HUGE assumptions here and list out generalizations but I feel that it has been done before, many times over. What I want to ask is why we are talking about gun control issues when heart disease is killing so many Americans? We should make heart disease illegal, then it will stop- right?

Quit Apologizing!


EVERYONE knows what dirt tastes like. Last week, I ordered a salad at a restaurant and found myself crunching on a shoddily washed leaf. I took a few more sandy bites before explaining the situation to my waiter, apologizing and asking to see the menu once again.

When my second-choice dish arrived, 20 minutes later, it was blanketed in bacon. I don’t eat meat, a dietary restriction for which I was “very sorry.” By the time a plate of edible food appeared, my fork had been a casualty of the confusion. Unable to catch the waiter’s eye, I walked to the kitchen, where I apologized to a busboy.

For so many women, myself included, apologies are inexorably linked with our conception of politeness. Somehow, as we grew into adults, “sorry” became an entry point to basic affirmative sentences.

True, this affliction is not exclusive to our gender. It can be found among men — in particular, British men — but it is far more stereotypical of women. So, in the words of a popular 2014 Pantene ad, why are women always apologizing?

One commonly posited theory, which informs everything from shampoo commercials to doctoral dissertations, is that being perceived as rude is so abhorrent to women that we need to make ourselves less obtrusive before we speak up. According to a 2010 study in the journal Psychological Science, “women have a lower threshold for what constitutes offensive behavior,” so are more likely to see a need for an apology in everyday situations. We are even apt to shoehorn apologies into instances where being direct is vital — such as when demanding a raise.

I’m dubious about this catchall explanation. The bend-over-backward compulsion to avoid giving offense might account for plenty of unnecessary “pleases” or “excuse me’s,” but it doesn’t sufficiently account for the intensity of a “sorry.”

Here’s the paradox: Every day, we see more unapologetically self-assured female role models, yet women’s extreme prostration seems only to have increased. A recent “Inside Amy Schumer” sketch wonderfully skewered our propensity to apologize: One by one, various accomplished women on a panel apologize, first for trivial things like being allergic to caffeine, or for talking over one another, but finally for having the gall to exist in the first place. The discrepancy between what those women offer the world and how they conduct themselves in it elevates the sketch from amusing to disturbing.

This is not to suggest that all men are rude and unapologetic and that women are the inverse, but something incongruous is happening in women’s behavior that can’t be chalked up to reflexive politeness. Look at the Metropolitan Transportation Authority’s new ads warning New York straphangers against inconsiderate behavior, like eating on the subway or manspreading. Graphics depict men displaying almost all these behaviors, except, perhaps in an effort to provide gender balance, the one that advises women to avoid elbows-out personal grooming.

The scenario seems ridiculously unrealistic — and not just because it’s the only one I’ve never witnessed firsthand. The ads are saying that men are far less likely to be conscious of personal space than women. So why, even after making ourselves physically smaller on the subway, are we still the ones apologizing?

I think it’s because we haven’t addressed the deeper meaning of these “sorrys.” To me, they sound like tiny acts of revolt, expressions of frustration or anger at having to ask for what should be automatic. They are employed when a situation is so clearly not our fault that we think the apology will serve as a prompt for the person who should be apologizing.

It’s a Trojan horse for genuine annoyance, a tactic left over from centuries of having to couch basic demands in palatable packages in order to get what we want. All that exhausting maneuvering is the etiquette equivalent of a vestigial tail.

When a woman opens her window at 3 a.m. on a weeknight and shouts to her neighbor, “I’m sorry, but can you turn the music down?” the “sorry” is not an attempt at unobtrusiveness. It’s not even good manners. It’s a poor translation for a string of expletives.

These sorrys are actually assertive. Unfortunately, for both addresser and addressee alike, the “assertive apology” is too indirect, obscuring the point. It comes off as passive-aggressive — the easiest of the aggressions to dismiss.

So we should stop. It’s not what we’re saying that’s the problem, it’s what we’re not saying. The sorrys are taking up airtime that should be used for making logical, declarative statements, expressing opinions and relaying accurate impressions of what we want.

We are not sorry to ask for an email that should have been sent to us weeks ago, or to expect to receive the item we paid for, or to be bumped into on the subway. Yes, we should take the shampoo commercial’s advice and weed out the word when it’s superfluous. But it’s just as important to articulate exactly what we mean in its place.

Julia Child, a consummate charmer, said it best: “Never apologize.” Probably because she never asked anyone to eat dirt.