The Phantom of the Damsel in Distress

My, how times have changed! A friend and I just went to see The Phantom of the Opera here in Charleston and I could not stop thinking about how Christine is portrayed. I am a huge fan of live entertainment and this was no exception this was beautifully done, the acting was superb, etc. There was nothing wrong with the performance at all.

If I have seen The Phantom of the Opera it was something I didn’t remember well, I was unsure what the story line was and my friend gave me her version of cliff notes. Pretty much there is a man who haunts the opera and when a dancer tries out for the lead role, he is mesmerized by her and becomes obsessed. He then haunts her (aka stalks) and makes her believe he is the “Angel of Music” and he has given her a gift and she is indebted to him.

realize how far women have come on the backs of women who fought to rise above the social norms of their times.

I didn’t know anything else this play going in, I figured it was a take on the Hunchback of Notre Dame in some ways but it isn’t. Please realize I am writing from my one experience with this play and my understanding of it, I did not watch the movie which I feel compelled to do now.

Christine was portrayed as a doll that needed Raoul to save her, as a piece of property that the Phantom and Raoul fought to possess. Oh please! The only moments I wanted to cheer Christine on was when she proved she could sing and when she showed tremendous compassion and forgiveness towards the Phantom. Other than that, Christine was just an object of Raoul and Phantom’s affection and obsession.

The play gives the illusion that Christine has free will but within its own confines. Modern-day phantom would be shot during the attempted kidnapping if not before when he showed his face after trying to terrorize me with his stalking.

The sad thing is that there are still women today that want to be the ‘princess’ or treated like a doll. They learn to contour their faces like K.K. (her name never to mentioned here, forbidding she thinks this is a positive reference), how to straighten their hair until there is no life in it, and believe that IF they look and act a certain way they are beautiful to others.

I know, I used to want to be one! I never accomplished the level of high-maintenance it requires to be an it” girl because I am too low maintenance and cost conscious. I hope that the gun industry can help shake off this ‘I’m a girl and I need a man to complete me’ nonsense. I hope women stop standing behind their significant others at gun shows because no one at the table is talking to them.

I hope gun vendors, stores, ranges, etc. learn that women are not only capable but intelligent and willing to learn and should be treated with respect, not with kid gloves or talked down to. Together, I hope we can all kill the notion of the Damsel in Distress. Let’s truly make her a phantom of the past, something to laugh at when we see her in cinema and live entertainment. But also realize how far women have come on the backs of women who fought to rise above the social norms of their times.

Don’t be a damsel in distress, be the hero you want someone else to be for you, you have it IN YOU. Learn, grow, and have fun!  I know if together we work to be the change, change will come. Embrace your sisters in shooting, cheer them on, encourage them. Let’s vanish the Damsel in Distress together.


Are Women Safer with Guns Around?

Elzie Pipkins, then 63, managed to reach the gun she had stashed in her safe when 16-year-old Devon Antonio Young broke into her home. He was armed with a shotgun and demanding money. Now he’s dead.

“I was only defending myself and my family inside of my home,” Pipkins told The Times. “It wasn’t on the outside, this was on the inside. When someone comes at you with force to do bodily harm, you have the right to defend yourself.”

Fast Facts About Female Gun Owners  

42 percent of women owned more than three guns

65 percent of women sought recommendations from family before buying a gun

42 percent of women surveyed carry concealed

56.3 percent of female gun owners have kids in the home

84.7 percent of women reported attending zombie hunting activities

73 percent reported taking at least one training class

98.3 percent reported training was very important

58.1 percent of women bought their guns from a gun shop

42.6 percent come from a mass retailer: Walmart, Cabelas, Bass Pro Shops

– Data from the 2013 National Shooting Sports Foundation

My Thoughts: In my opinion, absolutely YES! That yes is with reservation however, I feel that proper training is essential for responsible gun ownership. Situational awareness alone will make anyone safer, being more aware of your surroundings and having a plan in place for the what-ifs.

All citizens, male and female, young and old should know gun safety principles and how to handle a firearm safely. All citizens should have a personal toolkit for self-protection, no matter the method. Firearms are not toys, they are tools and everyone should be taught how to use them and respect them.

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Gun Ownership & Socializing

A night out shooting is now the new social activity, the article says. It is a pro-gun ownership article at least, no doom and gloom to be found anywhere within in.


I will agree, in the last 10 years social gun clubs and memberships have risen dramatically.

Nowadays you can advocate for 2nd Amendment rights with more than just the NRA. You can join a shooting league in your area, or join a National club such as The Well-Armed Woman.

There are also the shooting sports associations which you can join and volunteer with.

In fact, there is more now than ever and it’s still growing. I personally would like to see the ages of 18-49 increase, and the ethnicity factor. The political party aspect of the chart belies the ‘evil’ gun propaganda, if individuals are willing to try shooting, most will find they enjoy it.

I enjoy participating in The Well-Armed Woman chapter locally, and volunteering for South Carolina Carry.

As adults hobbies are what brings us together socially. We don’t always want to socialize with our co-workers that we already spend too much time with. When it comes to relaxing, a different crowd that enjoys the same activities that you do is just the ticket!

South Carolina Senate Subcommittee Passes Bill on Federal Gun Control Measures

COLUMBIA, S.C. (March 25, 2016) –  Yesterday, a South Carolina Senate Subcommittee passed a bill banning the enforcement of any future federal gun control measures. If signed into law, this would render them “nearly impossible to enforce.”

Rep. Mike Pitts introduced House Bill 4701 (H4701) on Jan. 19. Titled the Second Amendment Preservation Act, the bill garnered 31 cosponsors and passed by House by a 64-30 vote on March 3. Four Democrats joined with Republicans in support of the measure.

The legislation would prohibit the state from enforcing any federal law, rule, or regulation taking effect after January 1, 2016, that limits the right of a person to own, possess, or use a firearm, ammunition, or firearm accessories. The bill would also prohibit the state from accepting any federal funds related to any future law, rule, or regulation, that requires firearms to be registered or confiscated. Finally, the bill would bar the state from expending any funds for the enforcement of such laws, rules or regulations.

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Supreme Court Confirms 2A Applies to all Bearable Arms — Whiskey Tango Foxtrot

In a historic, but extremely short unanimous opinion, the United States Supreme Court has confirmed that the Second Amendment applies “to all instruments that constitute bearable arms,”. As this is an enormous class of nearly all weapons, the decision is properly applied to knives and clubs, and nearly all firearms that have been sold in […]

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Misconceptions about Pistol Sights

What’s that old saying? A lie, told often enough, becomes truth?

We gun people are often guilty of a related thing. That would be passing along hearsay comments over and over, until they become assumed fact.

Some of the things that I’ve heard a thousand times relate to gun sights. You know, observations like “Big Dot sights are too big to be useful”or “they’re not precise enough!”I got a bug up my butt to put some of these handgun sight myths to the test so I could start to separate truth from hearsay.

Let’s take a look at a few of the more common handgun sight myths.

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Permit-less Conceal Carry Denied in SC

COLUMBIA — A Senate panel has advanced three gun bills, including a House-passed measure that would not allow the state to enforce any future federal gun control regulations or laws.

But the panel declined Thursday to pass a House bill that would have allowed concealed guns to be carried without a permit.

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Her Journey Into Firearm Ownership

» I HAVEN’T EVEN REACHED MY 40s YET, but I have already gone through “the change.” I started experiencing various symptoms many years ago. At first, I would just feel “off.” I wasn’t sure if it was nausea, faintness, nerves or all of the above. I just felt uncomfortable, maybe even more self-conscious … or self-aware. I was not 100 percent myself. Frequently, I would get hot and sweaty, and sometimes the unpleasant warmth would dissipate only to be replaced by a hollow chill afterwards. I’m not really sure how to best describe it, especially since it’s so different for everyone, but for a while, I just did not feel “right.”

Train Your Brain To Let Go Of Habits – 10 Methods For Creating New Neural Pathways | The Mind Unleashed

When you understand how neural pathways are created in the brain, you get a front row seat for truly comprehending how to let go of habits. Neural pathways are like superhighways of nerve cells that transmit messages. You travel over the superhighway many times, and the pathway becomes more and more solid. You may go to a specific food or cigarettes for comfort over and over, and that forms a brain pathway. The hopeful fact, however, is that the brain is always changing and you can forge new pathways and create new habits. That’s called the neuroplasticity of the brain.

The more you learn about how you learn the more you can understand your own journey as you learn. I find this to be very freeing, especially as someone who tends to be harder on myself than I need to be.

Track those Bills!

Do you know what the latest legislation that is being considered in South Carolina? Do you know how you can make a difference?

Do you know that bills can have riders contained within them that allow changes to laws without formal debate? It can be a tricky world, the one of politics.

Have you ever read South Carolina’s Constitution?

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